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Family Financing for Grand Families
The financial burdens of becoming a relative parent can contribute to increased stress. Knowledge and confidence in basic financial management principles will provide additional choices to your family.
Almost everyone runs into financial trouble at some time. If you are in danger of having the utilities turned off, are behind in the rent, or don't have enough food, you may need help.
Budgets help us spend money on things we need and want. Rather than looking at budgeting in a negative way, look at it positively.
1. Recognizing your money values
Values influence our decisions and they determine what is important to us and to our families. We establish our values at a very early age, between the ages of four and seven. By the time we reach adulthood, we have internalized our values and usually do not think about them until we have a conflict such as not having enough money to meet our needs or wants.
Look at your personal values
 How important was money in your family?
 Were there many material things in your home?
 Did you receive an allowance as a child or teen?
 As a child, did you have to earn money to support your family?
 If you earned money, was this your extra spending money?
 Were money matters discussed in your family?
Ways in which values influence our lives might include:
 How we raise our children.
 What type of job we choose.
 How we treat people.
List two personal values:
How do these values influence how you spend your money?
2. Emotions Attached to Money
Power
Money can be used as a weapon against others. The person who controls the money supply has power over other family members. Other people's emotions about money can influence their decisions and their relationship with you. How might your adult child's emotions about money influence you? What about your grandchild's emotions about money?
Fear
Many people worry about not meeting their financial obligations. This fear can lead to health problems do to stress and can cause conflicts between husband and wife and among other family members.
Stress Caused by Secrecy
In many families, money matters are kept secret. Parents do not discuss the family's financial
situation with their children. Bearing the burden of money pressures can cause serious stress for
the "bread winner." Learning to share the family's financial situation with all family members can help everyone learn to live within the family's income.
3. Set Goals
The key to successful money management is setting goals. Goals guide us. They help our dreams come true within a set time period. Goals provide a purpose in life and will help us get what we want out of life. Goals must be set and prioritized. They must be achievable or we will be constantly disappointed.
Writing down your goals significantly increases the chance that we will accomplish them. As you write them down, group them in three categories.
Individuals in families have goals and families have goals. Planning together ensures that both individual and family goals will be accomplished. This can also strengthen family relationships.
Children should be involved when they are old enough to understand money. Remember, values are established in early childhood; children can also gain knowledge about goal setting and money management.
On the following page is a worksheet to help you plan your family's goals.
Budgeting Know-How
Remember that budgeting is more than just "pinching pennies" or recording how each dollar is spent. Here are the other steps to consider in creating a workable spending/savings plan.
Talk to your family and determine the family's needs
Face your money problems
Set money aside for unexpected expenses and emergencies
Choose a spending/savings plan to fit your family and its income
Adjust the plan as changes occur
Review
 Where is the money going?
 Did you estimate the expenses correctly?
 Can family members change some of their spending habits?
 Did the family save any money this month?
Revise
 Where must we increase?
 Where must we decrease?
 What needs to be changed?
Consider
 Do I have to have it?
 Do I have to buy it?
 Can I borrow it?
 Can I share it?
 Are there substitutes?
 Can I rent it rather than buy it?
 Can I get it free?
 Can I make it?
 Can I trade or barter for it?
 If I must buy it, where's the best buy?
 Will it last longer if I take care of it?
How to get Children Involved in Budget Planning
Get your children involved in financial planning. The ability to use money wisely is a basic and critical life skill. Even if there is a shortage of money in the home, look for ways to involve grandchildren in the decision-making process about spending of money.
4. Balancing Expenses, Income and Other Resources
Keeping records is a part of basic money management. We need financial records to pay bills, buy or sell a house or a car, prepare tax returns, report a lost or stolen credit card, answer questions about your bills or have an appliance repaired.
Figuring Your Expenses and Income
Filling out this worksheet is the first step in creating a Spending and Savings Plan for your family's future. You can use it to look ahead for one month and see if you will have enough money to cover your expenses. If not, you have time to make some choices and decisions. This will give you a sense of control of your money.
When filling out the following worksheet, keep in mind a couple of definitions:
On the worksheet, list all of your current expenses and all of your available income. Remember that some of your expenses are fixed (mortgage, rent, car payment) some are variable (food, clothes, gifts) and some are periodic (car insurance). Add up your expenses. Compare that total to the total income figure. Remember to include an amount to put into your savings account, if possible. What's left is money for additional expenses and purchases.
After completing these charts for several months, ask yourself:
 How have I been spending money?
 Could I have made better use of my money?
 What variable expenses could I reduce so that I have more money for fixed expenses or savings?
 What different choices would I make now?
Since you have been gathering your financial documents, this is a good time to think about keeping all of your family records together. Knowing where important documents and specific information are located helps keep your financial life in order.
Complete the Very Important Papers (VIP) checklist. If you have the item stored in a safe place, check yes. If it is a document you may need and you do not know where it is, check "no". Skip items that do not apply to your family. Take the time to find those items check on the "no" list. You will be glad you did, especially if an emergency occurs.
Very Important Papers Checklist
Safekeeping of records
Where are you keeping your grandchildren's birth certificates, immunization papers, and other important papers? A safe deposit box at a local financial institution is the safest place to store valuable papers. They range in cost from $20 to $100 per year.
Keeping Very Important Papers at home would eliminate the cost, but you must be sure to find a place free from moisture and other natural threats such as fire. One possibility is a fireproof box.
Another is to wrap the papers in moisture-proof paper and store in the freezer.
Depending on the age of your grandchild, you may want to tell him/her where you keep these Very Important Papers.
Revised 5/9/02
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